Those somebodies include us, in our own relationships. We just need to be brave enough not to be selfish, to look beyond the first flush of the honeymoon period and be in for the long run. I’m not suggesting we should save every relationship we find ourselves in, sometimes they don’t work. That doesn’t absolve us of the need to put in some effort when we find things take some effort.
Anybody can save their relationship. If it isn’t broken at some fundamental level, like it should have happened in the first place, then all it takes is effort. It’s not free, it is damn near impossible if the other person is not onside with you. Good relationships are not a gift, they are a prize you win by staying in the race. Life does not owe you love or happiness just because you are. Life has given you the opportunity for love and happiness, you need to put in the leg work to make it happen.
Everybody knows that relationships can be saved. We’ve seen it done. The magic isn’t always the same, but usually involves people giving up their own self-importance in the short term for a long term gain, or someone being prepared to forgive our own humanness when it is reflected back at us by someone else. Everybody can’t do it because we are all human.
Nobody wins in a divorce. Even in a bad marriage, one that should never have been, there are only people who lose less. Nobody sets out with this end in mind, unless they are choosing a bad marriage for a reason, and that probably makes them a bad person.
Somebody should read this blog. Anybody can read it. Everybody is entitled to read it. Probably nobody will…